Point to ponder

A man often curses his destiny when things don't go his way. He often sits and curses himself, his circumstances for what he deals in the present situation. But seldom does he realize that it is because of his own folly, that he has landed himself in the present circumstances. If the past generations have claimed that whatever happens is for the best, there must be some thought to it.

There are times when we may not have got the desired job, love interest, etc. But deep inside the heart you always know what is right or wrong for you. Human mind is very fickle. It tries to take itself in a comfort zone and tries to search happiness in outside entities. The mind tries to paint a different picture in spite of the knowledge of its reality. And so the disappointment starts. If we just sit down to ponder, haven't we often thought that, 'Thank God! It din't happen'. If the thing is actually worth it, it would certainly come to you. Our life is similar to that of a nomad with different people and circumstances painting the canvas. Let the mind not remain stationery. Thats the best for it and for others too.

Happiness resides within you. We simply have to search it and find it. Wish I find it and so you too.

Celebrate womanhood

You adore her. You love her. Your betrayal hurts her, yet she loves you. You respect her. You care about her. You beat her. You abuse her. Yet she wants you to just be happy. She, who plays the myriad roles and themes in your life.

This write-up is for the men who have her in many forms in their lives. This is certainly not to praise womanhood and make a hoopla out of it. . I am not a feminist. But I respect the species. I am one amongst them and I am proud of it. As I read today's newspaper, it was flooded with articles on celebrating womanhood, feminism. Yes, we should certainly celebrate the event. But does it restrict to just making her feel special on one day?

When I hear filmy dialogues of how for nine months a woman carries her baby within herself, I often thought of why a big deal is made of this in our films. But the fact that when a woman in the form of your mom carries you for nine whole months, she toils hard to make you what you are today. Her hard work starts from the day you are conceived within her. She is any girl's best friend. She herself stays hungry but never makes her kids realize of her ordeal. She bridges the gap between you and your dad. She has always been there for you. Has there been any day when her smile hasn't filled your day?

A woman as your friend. She is always there for you. You hurt her. You be rude to her. You merely see her angst. But do you realize the pain she carries when somebody hurts you? You often see her anger, but do you care to see that she is a well-wisher of yours always? She is sensitive. Thats the way nature has made her. You can't blame her for that.

A woman as a your life-partner. Her world revolves around you. Do you realize that she leaves her entire family of around 25 long years behind to stay with you? And when you disrespect her, where is the poor soul supposed to go? All she requires at the end of the day is some care and love from you. What is your success if she wouldn't have sacrificed hers for you? Is your happiness complete without hers?

Woman in varied roles. She simply thrives to strike a balance between so many elements of her life, which includes you. Doesn't it become your duty to make her feel special? Or to just let her know that the mere presence of her is important in your life and it means to you. That your world is incomplete without her in any way.

I don't support the ever-continuing argument on determining the superiority of the sexes always. There is no need to exercise superiority over each other. It isn't a battle of the sexes but a mutual agreement where both can't survive without the other. In some cases, it is always good to soothe a man's ego and make him realize his superiority which has been the rule of the society. While in some cases, a woman deserves more respect than you for what she does. Give her the respect which isn't paid to her often.

Lets celebrate the existence of the species. For they are worthy to you, to the society, to themselves, which they very often forget.

The Happiness Quotient

There are times when I really dun't know what life has to offer me the next? When I stand in the realm of darkness and destiny questions my decisions. Have they been bad or good enough to last me some happiness? The answers to all lies in a single word of 'perception'.

The world may think I have stumbled. But the point is not to be happy or being successful in their eyes.

Life is always about what one wants and wishes, nay what the world thinks of that person. I may not have taken the right decision (in the hindsight everybody's wise). But the most important part is that I have taken the decision. Going some years down the line, I will be in a position not to blame anyone as I am the charter of my own destiny. My happiness lies in what I think, what work I have chosen to do, despite negating the desired paths of so called success and happiness.

Most of my friends are unhappy in doing the work they do. If people aren't satisfied in what work they do, why do they do it for heaven's sake? The risk averse path is always safe, always devoid of pitfalls. But is it worth taking it? What is life if it is short of difficulties and testing times? A plain slate? I wish it were as rugged as the peaks, as mighty as the thunder, as darkened as the clouds. With this at least my eyes will be able to view a different world altogether.

I stand clueless in understanding the world's definition of happiness? Is happiness only in parading your barren fringes? Is it not there in taking some time off to relish yourself? Is it not in watching the leaves sway, watching the child's smile, in doing all the things in the world which you always wished to do but couldn't as you got stuck in the daily grind?

Life is not a race as said by Rancho. It is simply made of small moments which are to be relished. It really doesn't matter how the world perceives you and your worldly riches, what completely matters is how one feels everyday in doing the work which one chooses to do, in maintaining the relations which one wants to maintain despite the tribulations.

Life is really beautiful if seen from your eyes and not the myopic view which the world tries to provide.